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Managing the people in your life

“Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, first make sure you are not, in fact, surrounded by assholes.”

Managing the people in your life



Managing the people in your life. While there is no proof that Sigmund Freud uttered these words, they do convey a meaningful message."


Friends, Colleagues, Associates, And Others.

Friends are individuals with whom you share a personal bond. Friendships are built on mutual trust, understanding, and support.

Friends may be categorized as close friends, casual friends, childhood friends, etc., based on the depth and duration of the relationship.


Colleagues:

Colleagues are people you work with in a professional setting. The nature of the relationship is often centered around work-related activities and goals. People you work with may not be your friends!

Building positive relationships with colleagues can contribute to a healthy work environment and increased productivity.


Associates:

Associates can refer to people you are connected with in a more general sense, often in a professional or business context. They may not be as closely tied as colleagues.

Associates might include business contacts, partners, or individuals you collaborate with occasionally.


Other People:

This category could encompass a broad range of relationships, including acquaintances, neighbors, or individuals you meet in various social settings.

People in this category may not fit neatly into the friend, colleague, or associate categories but still play a role in your social network.

Try subdividing your contacts list into Friends, Colleagues, Associates, And Others.

Your circle of friends is also your team; assess their strengths and weaknesses. Do their values, beliefs, and ideals align with yours?


Always remember these three types of people:

those who helped you in difficult times, those who left you in difficult times, and those who created the difficult times.


Those Who Helped You:

Recognize and appreciate those who have supported you during difficult times. These individuals are valuable contributors to your life and team.


Those Who Left You:

Understand why some individuals may have distanced themselves during tough times. It's an opportunity for self-reflection and understanding.


Those Who Created Difficult Times:

Be mindful of individuals who may have contributed to challenges. Evaluate whether these relationships are healthy and consider how to address or manage them.


Assessing Strengths:


Skills and Talents:

Identify the unique skills and talents each member brings to the group. This diversity can contribute to a well-rounded team.


Communication:

Evaluate how well your friends/team members communicate. Effective communication is vital for understanding each other and working cohesively.


Reliability and Trustworthiness:

Consider the reliability and trustworthiness of each individual. A dependable team is built on trust and the confidence that each member will fulfill their responsibilities.


Emotional Support:

Assess how emotionally supportive your friends are. A strong team provides encouragement and assistance during challenging times.


Shared Values:

Examine whether your values, beliefs, and ideals align. Shared values can create a more harmonious and cohesive team environment.


Identifying Weaknesses:


Communication Barriers:

If there are communication challenges, it can hinder the flow of ideas and collaboration. Address any issues that impede effective communication.


Conflicting Goals:

Assess whether there are conflicting goals or interests within the team. Misalignment in objectives can lead to discord.


Lack of Accountability:

Identify any instances of a lack of accountability. A team should hold its members responsible for their commitments and contributions.


Limited Diversity:

Lack of diversity in skills, perspectives, or backgrounds may limit the team's ability to tackle a variety of challenges.


In conclusion, assessing your social circles—whether friends, colleagues, associates, or others—is crucial for your well-being and success. Surround yourself with individuals who uplift and support you, while also being mindful of relationships that may not serve your best interests. Remember, the quality of your relationships can significantly impact your mental health and overall happiness.


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